How to Transform Your Daily Mommy Grind

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This has been a rough week. A really rough week. Toddler boss has been out sick with yet another ear infection and in the midst of nursing her back to health, I got sick too. I haven’t felt this bad in a while. Fever, nasal congestion, headache, cough, body ache, chills and very little energy to do anything else but hold the remote and drag myself to the kitchen to make boring meals for us.

My sole outlets to the outside world (todder boss insists that I keep “Barney & Friends” on replay, so CNN is out) were my social media feeds, which led me to a great article by Traci Bild, entitled “The Side of Motherhood We Aren’t Prepared to Discuss.” It kept it real in a way that I loved and made me feel like I’m not crazy for feeling like I’m going crazy sometimes. #mommylife

In the article, Bild talks about how she broke down her forthcoming book about helping moms escape the drain of the daily grind to a group of elementary school students. "She might work 9-5 or 9-6 then she comes home, right? But then she starts working again. She makes dinner, cleans up the kitchen, maybe does a load of laundry, and helps you with homework?" she asked. They all could relate, not surprisingly. During the course of their talk, she starts to see the children understand that even though they think that their moms are supposed to have it all figured out, the truth is that they really don’t. It’s the one thing we all know, but don’t talk about nearly enough.

To moms, she explains, “No one's provided [us] with an instruction book on how to juggle it all and hard as we try to hide it, we're not doing a very good job. While we have "more," women are less happy today than at any other time in history.”

These are the steps that Bild said she took she says ultimately transformed her life and her happiness. Click here to read the entire article via HuffingtonPost.

1. Breathe. Seriously, take a deep breath- in and out, in and out and slow down for just a moment. You have to breathe!

2. Take inventory. As a woman, you were probably raised to believe you could have IT all and you've been killing yourself trying to get IT. Do you even know what IT is? How will you know when you have IT? Are you missing what matters most in an effort to attain IT all?"

3. Prioritize your life. Get real about what matters most to you. Are you honoring those priorities? If not, you're probably out of balance, unhappy and unfulfilled. List your top three priorities and consider what adjustments you can make to get them back in order.

4. Take charge. Consider changing your focus from having IT all to YOUR all. It probably doesn't take a lot to make you happy. I'm talking about real happiness, deep in your soul. So what does it for you? Build YOUR all around the priorities that matter most. Make a short list of what you want in life, what I call "YOUR all" and rather than trying to have what everyone else has, pursue what matters most to you.

5. Make Changes. If you don't like your life, change it. Minor modifications can create huge ripples in your happiness. What two or three small changes can you make this week?

Hey Haute Mamas! I'm Riche Holmes Grant, a modern mom + mompreneur who designs smart + stylish products that make your mommy gig easier.

When I'm not busy taking orders from my #miniboss, I'm contributing to MarthaStewart.com or in the kitchen whipping up delicious family-friendly creations in my BambiniWare Apronini.

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